Who I work with
For sensitive, high-functioning adults
On paper you're fine. You're the one everyone else leans on, and somewhere along the way you stopped counting your own needs as real information.
You might recognize
Some of this may sound familiar
- You're the competent one, and nobody has asked how you are in a while.
- You register the mood of a room before anyone in it says a word.
- You can name exactly what you need and still not believe you're allowed to ask.
- You've been in therapy before, got somewhere real, and then stalled.
In the work
What we actually do
Sensitivity as information
A nervous system that registers a lot isn't defective. It's picking up signal and it has likely been doing that work without a break for years. We spend our time on what to do with all of it rather than on turning it down.
When needs don't count
Plenty of people can list what they want and still not let it matter. Usually that started as an adaptation somewhere that needing things was expensive. We go looking for where that rule got written, and we go at a speed you can stay present for rather than one that looks productive.
Why insight stalled out
Many of the people I see have done therapy before. They got somewhere real, and then it went flat. When that happens it's often because the work stayed in the thinking brain, while the pattern itself sits somewhere older — in the body, in the attachment system, in parts of you that formed before you had language for any of it.
“Trauma-informed pacing isn't caution for its own sake.”
FAQ
Questions people ask
I'm functioning. Do I need therapy?
Functioning and being okay are two different measurements. Many of the people I work with are managing a great deal well, which is exactly why nobody checks on them. You don't have to be falling apart to be allowed an hour.
I've done therapy before and hit a wall. What's different here?
I work somatically and experientially, and I'm trained in Internal Family Systems, Inner Relationship Focusing, psychodynamic and relational psychotherapy, and mindfulness-based approaches. We spend less time explaining the pattern and more time with what's happening while you're inside it. This isn't CBT, and if purely cognitive work is what you want, I'm probably not the right fit. Therapy outcomes are not guaranteed, and I won't tell you in advance what yours will be.
What does somatic work involve?
Less analysis, more noticing. I'll ask what's going on in you as you speak — where something tightens, where it goes quiet, what the breath does when you get near the real sentence. Somatic psychotherapy with me involves no physical touch at all, and all of it happens by telehealth.
Do I have to live in New York?
For therapy, yes. Weekly therapy takes place via telehealth. I am licensed in New York and can only offer psychotherapy services to people who reside in New York State, and you need to be physically located in New York State at the time of each session.
What if things get bad between sessions?
If you are in danger right now, call or text 988 or dial 911. This site isn't a crisis service and email is not monitored for emergencies.
How do I find out whether this fits?
Start with the free consultation. It runs 15 to 20 minutes, by video or phone, and it's a conversation rather than a commitment — part of my job is to say so if someone else would serve you better. After that, sessions are $235 for 50 minutes; I'm out of network with every insurance plan, there's no sliding scale, and the monthly superbill I provide may or may not get you reimbursed.
Start with a free consultation
A short conversation to see whether we would be a good fit for working together. Weekly therapy takes place via telehealth. I am licensed in New York and can only offer psychotherapy services to people who reside in New York State.