Complex trauma & attachment
Therapy for queer and LGBTQ+ adults
Being queer isn't what we're working on. What we work on is what it took to get here — the vigilance, the edited self, the family and the church that made love feel conditional.
You might recognize
Some of this may sound familiar
- You learned to read a room for safety long before you had words for why.
- You came out, and part of your body never got the message that it's over.
- Love from family or faith arrived with conditions you still feel in your chest.
- Someone who called you difficult or too much turned out to be the one keeping score.
In the work
What we actually do
Starting from the body, not the explanation
Many queer adults can explain their history fluently and still feel braced in their own skin. Somatic and experiential work goes underneath the story, to what your nervous system learned about being seen. We move slowly and follow what your body is actually doing, not what it should be doing by now.
The parts that kept you hidden
Using IFS and Inner Relationship Focusing, we get to know the parts of you that learned to edit, perform, or disappear. They did that to keep you attached and safe, and they aren't the enemy. We meet them with curiosity rather than trying to override them, which is usually where the real change begins.
When the church and the family were the same room
For many queer clients, the first place love felt conditional was a religious one. Religious trauma and recovery from high-demand religions is one of my core specialties, and it is part of my own background. Here faith, family, and identity don't have to be sorted into separate topics — they can sit in the same hour.
Attachment, relationships, and repair
Old attachment wounds tend to show up in current relationships — in who you choose, what you tolerate, and how quickly you disappear. Some of that includes recovering from partners or family members who used control, gaslighting, or narcissistic patterns. All of my therapy is individual, so we work on your side of the relationship, from your values.
“I show up as a real person, not a blank screen.”
FAQ
Questions people ask
Do I need to explain queer life to you before we can start?
No. Affirming practice is how I work, not a qualification I hold: your orientation, gender, and relationship structure aren't treated as problems, and you don't have to teach the basics before you can use the hour.
I'm queer and I left a high-demand religion. Is that one topic or two?
Often one. Religious trauma and cult recovery is one of my core specialties, and it frequently sits directly alongside questions of identity and family. We don't have to split them apart to work on them. Therapy outcomes are not guaranteed, and progress is usually gradual and uneven.
Do you see couples?
No. All of my therapy is individual, so when a relationship comes into the room we work on your side of it.
Where does the weekly work happen?
Weekly therapy takes place via telehealth. I am licensed in New York and can only offer psychotherapy services to people who reside in New York State.
What if I'm not safe right now?
If you are in danger right now, call or text 988 or dial 911. This site isn't a crisis service and email is not monitored for emergencies.
Start with a free consultation
A short conversation to see whether we would be a good fit for working together. Weekly therapy takes place via telehealth. I am licensed in New York and can only offer psychotherapy services to people who reside in New York State.