Specialty
Narcissistic abuse and coercive control
You may not have a word for what happened. You do have the aftermath: self-doubt, a scrambled sense of reality, and a nervous system still on duty.
You might recognize
Some of this may sound familiar
- You keep looking for proof it was 'bad enough' to count.
- You apologize reflexively, including to people who hurt you.
- You lost track of your own preferences somewhere along the way.
- You feel foolish for not leaving sooner. You weren't foolish.
In the work
What we actually do
Reality gets steady again
We rebuild trust in your own perception first — what you noticed, what you knew, what you talked yourself out of.
The self-blame gets met, not argued with
Telling you it wasn't your fault rarely lands. We work with the part of you that holds the blame and find out what it's protecting.
Boundaries as a body skill
Saying no is easy to plan and hard to survive. We practice it experientially, so your system learns that a limit can hold.
“Real change lives in the emotional/unconscious mind, in the attachment systems and the body.”
FAQ
Questions people ask
Do you diagnose the other person?
No. I can't diagnose someone I've never met, and it isn't necessary. We work with the pattern of control and its effects on you.
What if I'm still in contact with them?
Many people are — co-parenting, family, work. We work with the reality you're in, including safety and boundaries within continued contact.
Is this the same as complex trauma work?
It overlaps considerably. Coercive control tends to add specific injuries around perception, self-trust and blame, so we address those directly.
I'm in immediate danger. What should I do?
If you are in danger right now, call or text 988 or dial 911. This site isn't a crisis service and email is not monitored for emergencies.
Start with a free consultation
A short conversation to see whether we would be a good fit for working together. Weekly therapy takes place via telehealth. I am licensed in New York and can only offer psychotherapy services to people who reside in New York State.